So as stay at home moms we know the stir crazy feeling we all get when it’s just us and our tornado chaos toddlers. From never-ending laundry baskets and dirty cloths to the Lego walk of doom (Lego fire walk) we end up in a small runt. They when the hubby gets home we can pawn them off for a few second of time for us to owe alone. So how do you stay sane, well let’s look at what sane really means. Google defines it (a person) of sound mine; not mad or mentally ill, well are we mentally ill? Sometimes feels that way!
First what I would advise is find someone to talk to other than your husband or family member! Even a small text saying hi what’s new with you? to a friend can help keep contact with the outside world and not feel so alone. Talking with adults other than toddlers helps.
Otherwise you find yourself talking to the dog when the kids are down for a nap and the neighbor looks at you like you need help. As funny as that sounds it’s not trust me! It’s better to have that one friend to keep you in the loop of what’s happening outside in the daylight than to be alone.
Laugh at the Small Stuff
It Is always better to laugh at the small stuff than get angry. There are times my children do somethings that I want to yell at them for but I have found those things are so small and can be corrected rather than wasting my energy fighting over it. Using mommies makeup on her doll or letting the dog eat the entire jar of peanut butter. I laugh at myself and at the situation then explain that’s a no no. Later when you look back at it you will feel better knowing you laughed at it than yelled.
Your not Failing
You are not a failure, just know that! You parent in different ways than what everyone else does. You are an awesome mother, ok so you eat gluten-free, or you eat meat, or you use cloth nappies vs disposable, you are a good mother! Suppose you breast feed over bottle feed that’s ok both are good. Unless your physically harming your kids….(which I hope someone isn’t) then you are amazing!
Being a parent is hard but it’s worth it!
Clean when YOU can
Don’t over exert yourself cleaning! A messy house is ok. Not a disgustingly unlivable situation but messy as in you can tell people live there, not it’s so clean you can’t touch anything. Take a break from folding to play fort with your babies, or hide and seek. Don’t always worry about the house, because you miss out on the good stuff! My house is usually a mess, but it’s livable, dishes are clean and laundry is somewhat done! Food is made and the kids are alive.
Make a game out of everything! If you are cleaning, have them clean with you! Grab a squirt bottle with water in it and have they clean the windows. If you’re wanting to eat cake then play hide and seek, have them go first to hide so you can eat alone.
It’s not always easy, I never reach the end of the laundry pile, but it means I take time to be with my minions.